DEAR ANTHONY

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To love and be loved in return is the ultimate love story. But sometimes, No! not sometimes, most of the times, at least for me, it doesn’t work that way. It doesn’t always end with a happily ever after. Well, I had to learn it the hard way. And probably you must have had experienced it - because if not, you wouldn’t be reading this.

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When you start to spend more time with someone, you open yourself up to him. You listen to his stories and you start to know a little bit more about him. His strengths and weaknesses. His greatest fears and desires. Even down to his favorite food and expressions. 

And then in return, you share your own secrets and past experiences. You become comfortable around him - texting and chatting everyday. Then going out on movie dates or coffee breaks. He makes you feel that together your past heartaches are bearable because you have each other. And before you know it, you’re in love!

Loving someone is giving parts of yourself that you are too scared to share to the rest of the world. But since you feel safe around him, you give him pieces of yourself. You reveal your true self without the fear of being judged and being misunderstood. You begin to trust him and treat him more than just a friend. Then you start to expect or assume that he feels the same way. Until he tells you the words you dread to hear from him, “I like you, but I’m not ready”
or “You’re really nice but you deserve better.” or worst is, he just disappears. Whatever his reasons are, the truth is, it still hurts. 

Nobody likes being rejected. It sucks. You may end up crying your heart out all night. Or drowning yourself with Koreanovelas that make you even more sad because of those romantic scenes. Or maybe you impulsively book a flight to Palawan or Siargao because you want to getaway and find yourself. Or you get a tattoo because you want to prove to yourself that you can handle the pain.

After a few days or weeks of self pity and doubt, you realize to face the situation head on. You wake up in the morning without a heavy heart. You begin to see things clearly with a new found zest for life because finally it doesn’t hurt that much anymore. But life surprises you with a road bump 'coz someone asks you about him. And there you go again, feelings come back and you want to know how he’s doing. You become emotional while he is probably having a good laugh with someone else. And then you wonder if he still thinks about you even just for a second. This is the worst thing that could happen - a relapse!


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But hey! It’s not going to be this way forever. The perfect person, oh not perfect, but the “RIGHT” person will come at the right time. What you need to do right now is to love yourself more than anyone else. Unrequited love doesn’t only happen to you. It happens to a lot of people. Bright, young and attractive people also experience rejection. Always remember that it’s not about you not being enough. But it is maybe about not being right for each other or not being at the right moment. If you are going to ask me about how I feel towards unrequited love, I’d say “It is probably one of the most painful experiences I had to endure. Honestly, he’ll always have a special space in my heart. But the sad reality is I am not just the right person for him. And that’s okay.”

But who's Anthony? hmmm I guess you just have to wait and see. Or will you?

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